Ah, love! Is there another matter that conjures up songs, poems, books and different inventive works greater than love? Such a “rabbit gap” of a subject, similar to in Alice in Wonderland, particularly when involving spirituality.
When one asks the query, “What’s God?” the reply can rightly be given as, “God is LOVE.” It’s stated additionally that God is infinite, in each atom of creation, and that universe itself is constituted of Love. Effectively, no marvel there are such a lot of songs written about it!
One thing tells me, nevertheless, that you’re not studying this since you wish to enter right into a philosophical discourse on the character of the universe. Maybe although, you desire to a dialogue that is a little more sensible. Effectively, good — as a result of as huge as the subject of affection and relationships is, there is a really sensible aspect to them. It might certainly be enjoyable to fantasize about discovering your one real love whereas launched into a magical quest to slay dragons, however there are pragmatic steps that one can take to manifest a religious associate and relationship in the true world.
After I got here onto the religious path I used to be a single man in my 20s. I had already been open to discovering an excellent life associate however solely had a number of exhausting classes and failed relationships to point out for my efforts. I knew, nevertheless, that my quest for Self-realization was extra necessary than the rest and that solely a associate who shared my religious aspirations might fulfill this need. I started this quest in earnest by asking for some recommendation.
Discovering the One
Recommendation on discovering a mate can usually contain the what-to-look-for selection, however the steering I acquired has helped me to today, even in different areas of my life. After I requested my religious mentor what to do, she requested, “What do you think about can be completely different in your life when this need is fulfilled?” This query gave me pause. I actually needed to suppose exhausting about it. I imply… I might stay “fortunately ever after,” proper? Discovering the fitting associate was one thing I had wished for thus lengthy however I noticed I had by no means thought to query the longing in that manner.
I started to see the aim behind that query. I couldn’t have or ask for a distinct form of life if I used to be not prepared to take motion and make some modifications NOW. One other query got here logically to me: “So what might you be doing NOW to manifest these issues in your life that you’re asking for?” I used to be asking for somebody to like – a religious associate. I might have somebody to like in my life however I wanted to do some issues in another way to convey that about. I rapidly realized that there are many individuals to offer like to NOW. After all, it wouldn’t be precisely the identical because the romantic love I sought, however on an impersonal degree, I might be working towards channeling God’s love for His youngsters. Isn’t that the very best expression of affection anyway?
I wished a associate who was good for me in a number of methods and I understood that I wanted to develop and remodel myself into an excellent associate for her as nicely. I set about making a life for myself that would come with, and make room for, all the advantages I might think about having as soon as I discovered my very best associate. After I felt prepared, I trusted that the Divine Mom would introduce me to her.
I did in reality, meet my associate a number of years later. I might see then how each “failed” try to seek out her was really an necessary step and lesson that made me a greater man and higher associate for her. After I checked out a number of the different difficult areas of my life, I used to be additionally in a position to see the identical steps and patterns.
Magnetism Issues
I rapidly realized that there was one other, deeper reality behind that follow-up query, a profound precept that I used to be meant to extra totally perceive: magnetism. Yogananda stated that it’s the magnet of our coronary heart that pulls true soul associates and we improve our magnetism by the standard and amount of our vitality. I understood that if I used to be to draw an excellent mate, I needed to improve my magnetism.
However how? Simply as a paper clip could be made right into a magnet by intentional contact with a powerful magnet, so can we improve our magnetism by divine contact with God, the supply of all vitality and energy. Deep meditation, chanting, working towards God’s presence, and different religious practices all assist us improve our religious magnetism. The extra we will discover our middle in God, the extra we discover out who we actually are as particular person human beings.
Each atom in creation is inextinguishably dowered with individuality. —Paramhansa Yogananda
Yogananda stated that each atom of creation is dowered with individuality. We’re every distinctive, but at our deepest middle, we’re all the identical in our need to like and be beloved. Though our deepest needs for everlasting love can solely be fulfilled by union with the Divine, it’s completely dharmic to discover a mate for transferring towards fulfilling and expressing these divine needs inside this lifetime.
Now that I knew HOW to discover a companion and felt that I used to be doing the whole lot I might, in need of standing on a busy road nook as a strolling sandwich board: SOUL MATE WANTED, it was only a matter of ready and trusting. That is the a part of the method you not often hear about. As a result of normally, it’s boring — and exhausting. It’s a bit like having a longing for cucumbers and planting the backyard for them — you’re certain to get cucumbers they usually’re certain to be nice however you continue to need to water the backyard, be affected person, and have religion and belief that Mom Nature will do her job and make it easier to out, earlier than the outcomes.
My Motion Steps
So, I waited. I trusted that Divine Mom would information me in the whole lot and the rest that wanted to occur.
- I stored up my every day meditation practices.
- I chanted each time I might.
- I practiced the presence of God utilizing any method that impressed me.
- I tuned into the standard of affection I wished to really feel for and from my life associate.
- I gave that high quality of affection to everybody I might in no matter kind I might.
For this final one — whether or not it was a sort gesture, a pleasant dialog or perhaps a smile whereas passing a stranger on the road, I did all that I might to tune into that vitality of affection initially. I noticed that this love was not mine. I didn’t create it, I used to be merely performing as a channel for God’s like to share with others round me.
Good Imperfection
My efforts weren’t seamless and I did make a little bit of a mistake that I believe is a typical one. I believed that discovering “the one” could be an finish in itself. I believed that this particular particular person could be good for me and in some way “full” me. I imply, discovering the proper particular person would, in fact, make your entire life fortunately good and your entire troubles would fade away right into a sea of romantic bliss! Marriage books have been about handle all of the never-ending happiness that floods your being together with your good mate, proper? Effectively, not precisely. That’s a romantic delusion.
In actuality — on this planet of duality, each achievement attracts its reverse. That “dream job” could include a “nightmare boss,” or that new child you’ve been ready for could imply that you just lose all the single friendships you’ve loved and cultivated since center college. The record goes on, however you get the concept that, find your life associate, the precept of duality nonetheless applies. Your associate could certainly be stunning and fantastic but will even come into your life with their very own quirks and idiosyncrasies. They could certainly be most loving and serene, however from their forgetting a birthday or one thing else necessary you may understand simply the alternative.
How, then, are we to narrate to nature’s duality and this eager for a mate? The good ones information us to try to be even-minded within the face of loss or achieve – as all on this materials world is fleeting besides God. We are able to think about, too, that irrespective of how lengthy we’re alive, irrespective of how lengthy we’re with our associate, the day will come once we are again within the astral world reflecting on our lives and all that we’ve discovered right here. What’s it, then, we wish to achieve – or suppose we are going to be taught from the expertise of getting the proper mate on this lifetime?
Love Divine
That reply can be completely different for every particular person but when we’re critical, as nicely, about our seek for God, then the need for a mate can be a subset of our need to know and discover God. It’s completely acceptable to ask God for a mate who will assist convey each of you nearer to Him in a relationship supporting one another’s religious development and growth.
Take into account that our needs generally transcend what we really suppose we would like — like after I say I need a good chilly soda however what I actually need is to be hydrated and nourished. After I lastly get the soda, it’s solely after it’s gone in three gulps and my abdomen feels humorous for the subsequent hour that I notice that wasn’t what I actually craved. On a deeper degree, God is aware of and watches the guts. It’s as much as us to belief that what’s actually finest for us is best left to Him.
We’re all on a religious path, whether or not we’re merely inquisitive about religious teachings and ideologies or sincerely dedicated to a specific path, instructing and lifestyle. If the want for a religious associate and relationship is robust for you, manifesting and fulfilling such needs begins with loving these round you, growing your magnetism and trusting that the whole lot that involves you is to your highest good.
We’re “dowered with individuality” however relating to love, we’re all alike in the necessity to love and be beloved. Could every day convey you nearer to discovering your coronary heart’s need. God Bless you.
Initially revealed: February 18, 2020
