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Quick Lentil Salmon Salad

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Quick Lentil Salmon Salad Recipe
Quick Lentil Salmon Salad
In this budget-friendly salmon recipe, canned salmon tops lentils, carrots and celery—ingredients you probably have on hand already. Fiber-rich lentils come in a variety of colors and they typically cook faster than dried beans, so they’re a great choice for a fast weeknight dinner.

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Why You Should Be 'Womanspreading'

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One of Donald Trump’s most effective attacks on Hillary Clinton is ridiculing her voice. Campaigning in California recently, the candidate said he “can’t stand her screaming all the time,” wincing and covering his ears to illustrate his point. The imitation draws big laughs from Trump’s crowd, but for many women it’s just one more reminder of a persistent double standard: While men can raise their voices at will, women who do the same are “grating” or “shrill.”

Yet new data suggest that there may a way for women to short circuit this sexist perception. Writing in the Wall Street Journal, a researcher from Emory’s Goizueta Business School explained how she and a colleague from Stanford’s Graduate School of Business synthesized 71 studies looking at reactions to assertive behavior. As you might expect, they found that women were penalized for “direct, explicit forms of assertiveness, such as negotiating for a higher salary or asking a neighbor to turn down the music.”

But here’s the surprising thing: The researchers found that women were not dinged for “nonverbal” assertiveness. In other words, they could use expansive body positions—think throwing an arm over the next chair—or putting themselves in close physical proximity to their audience. Similarly, there was no gender-based penalty for “paraverbal cues,” such as speaking loudly or even interrupting.

Their conclusion: Women can use the confident body language that men and women have come to expect from leaders without fear of being judged more harshly than their male counterparts. While acknowledging that using a strong speaking style without using strong words still puts women at a disadvantage, the researchers asserted that nonverbal dominance can be, at the very least, “a side door to achieving influence.”

Now, some women might read this and sigh, “Oh, we have to use SIGN language to get what we want.” However, I see these findings as a real positive. As a communication coach, my work with female execs has proven the value body language—and how the right postures can help them use stronger language effectively. For instance, people are less receptive to women when they frown, so adjusting to a more neutral—but still serious face—will help you get your message across, even when your message is something something people may not want to hear. The same goes for moderating a high pitched voice. Women who become defensive and react fiercely to criticism of them or their teams are often dinged for failing to “show grace under fire,” the most prized of all leadership behaviors. Again, strategies such as pausing before firing back, maintaining a calm but serious face, and responding in low tone paves the way to use assertive language.

When faced with the need to change their communication, both women and men tend to push back, concerned about losing authenticity. But experts say leadership requires constant evolution and adaptation. In a recent HBR article, Herminia Ibarra at INSEAD said, “The only way we grow as leaders is by stretching the limits of who we are.”

Consider Hillary Clinton, who has noticeably changed her tone. Of her recent, and widely praised, speech attacking Trump, the New York Times wrote, “Speaking in a steady, modulated tone but lobbing some of the most fiery lines of her presidential campaign, Mrs. Clinton painted Mr. Trump as a reckless, childish and uninformed amateur who was playing at the game of global statecraft.” She wasn’t loud, but her words hit the mark.

In my view, the path forward for women is two-fold. Yes, we must sometimes adjust our style to account for centuries of male leadership. But we can simultaneously widen that path and make it our own. Think of Sheryl Sandberg and her trademark stilettos. Her style may be a far cry from her famously t-shirted boss, but she’s every bit as powerful.

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How You Answer This Question May Say a?Lot About Your Happiness

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We know time is money, but could it be more valuable than money? 

Maybe so, at least when it comes to well-being: Research published recently in the journal Social Psychological & Personality Science suggests that people who value time over money are happier. 

Time and money are a constant trade-off in the modern world. Many of us feel like we're incessantly bartering with ourselves, and the universe, to balance it out. (Do we take the job that pays better, but demands longer hours? Or do we choose the gig with the lower salary and shorter workday?)

To find out which commodity people valued more, the researchers came right out and asked: "Which do you want more of—time or money?"

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The research paper included five studies, involving more than 4,000 people. Respondents were surveyed online and in person, and some were also asked the reason why they had a particular preference.

Overall, about two-thirds of the respondents said they would rather have more money.

"It makes sense," says study co-author Hal Hershfield, PhD, assistant professor of marketing at UCLA's Anderson School of Management. "Time actually buys you a lot but people don't always recognize that."

In other words, money is more measurable.  

But when the researchers correlated the survey results with various measures of well-being, it turned out that the people who wanted more time were actually happier than those who chose money (regardless of the amount of time and money they already had). 

Which is sort of what the team expected. Previous research has suggested that people who focus on time tend to engage in activities more likely to lead to happiness. Material goods costing money also tend to bring less happiness than experiences, which tend to take more time than money.

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In the current study, people who chose extra hours over extra cash were more likely to focus on the positives (how they would spend the time) than the negatives (there's never enough time in the day). 

They also talked more in terms of "wants" (say, "I have artistic projects I want to complete") than "needs" (such as household chores that must get done). And they said they would likely spend their extra time with others rather than alone. Those uses of time have been linked to happiness in the literature, Hershfield pointed out.

There were other differences between the groups too. People who chose time were more likely to be older, be married, and have children, all factors that may shape perceptions of the value of time. 

Hershfield's advice? "When people are making resource trade-offs between time and money, they should consider what the value placed on one versus another will ultimately get them in the long run—in terms of happiness."